If forgiving is an achievement, well, a person’s ability to do so is necessary. Yes, next to forgiveness is letting go…of the past happenings in one’s life…it could be a past relationship that left you a deep cut in your heart, a betrayal of a friend you once trusted the most, family problems such as siblings misunderstanding…just a few to mention those heartaches each and every one has experienced. If a person could surpass everything…then peace of mind is within reach and will surely be happy.
Doing it is not that easy. Thorough discernment is necessary, or it could be a long-term mental and emotional struggle…but some individuals could easily forgive and forget.
There are definitions of forgiveness, a decision a person can make to let go of anger. The thought of revenge against the person who hurt you feels the pain you felt.
When you forgive someone, it does not mean you deny the responsibility of the person who hurt you, or minimize or justify the act. Instead, it is the willingness to forgive someone without condition…it is not even an excuse for what the person did to you.
According to Dr. Robert Enright, a professor of educational psychology at the University of Wisconsin and a pioneer in the scientific study of forgiveness, forgiveness is a choice. It is the process of uncovering and letting go of the anger, while restoring hope and moving on with life. I strongly agree, forgiveness is indeed a choice, a choice to do the right thing. It does not take a day or a week…it is a process…after letting go of the pain, the person must keep moving forward, finding peace of mind and happiness.
Some may mistreat other individuals, hurt them as if it were their happiness…do not let them penetrate your senses. They are worms that will eat the very soul of your being and leave you behind, rotten at the corner of your ruined world. Never let these things happen to you. Do not give them the right to do such rotten deeds. Be strong and firm at all times.
But if things did happen to you, forgive the person. Through it, this would allow the person to know the essence of forgiveness and how to let go. It is possible that the person who hurt you was hurt by someone in the past, too.
It is really a choice not to act or desire to respond accordingly. When we do (revenge), we are not far different from the person who inflicted the pain. Choose not to allow grudges, hurt, or wrongdoings to define our lives.
